endangered species?

is chivalry dead? so being a woman of the new millennium (well, sort of...) id like to think that im independent, and strong, and capable, and all that jazz...and don't have the need for those antiquated notions that our male counterparts must continue to do all of those chivalrous/masculine things that they were once expected to do...but i do.
when i was younger, and really didn't have exposure to many things, when a boy did things like held the door open, or led you through a crowd (rather than making you go first), offering their coat or sweater when its cold...i would think to myself 'wow, that's really nice, what a good guy...' but now, being older and i don't if im all that much wiser, it's come to be expected...i don't know if ill notice if a guy will hold the door open anymore, but i definitely seem to notice if he doesn't...on the scale of things, id say that i fall a bit more on the traditional side, and though it shouldn't make a difference whatsoever, those little things resonate in my head...maybe ive been spoiled by my male friends, that are overtly concerned and do all those little things that i have come to take for granted, (i.e.. walking you to your car, carrying whatever you may have in your hands, having you walk on the inside part of the sidewalk), and i don't really give it a second thought anymore. but it surprises me what an impact those types of things have. for example, when i come across a new guy - friend, coworker, grocery store bagger, whatever - they get placed into two separate categories: those that i would want to set up with my friends, and those i would not. the guy could be perfectly nice, funny, good looking, whatever, but if he lacks that fundamental 'female nuturing' attribute, i almost automatically categorize him as 'one of those guys'...i don't think it's a learned attribute, they either have it or they don't...and i think it mostly resides in those guys who have older sisters (now that's a gross generalization, but for the large majority, i think that it rings true)...its second nature for some guys, and girls, those with that innate characteristic are definitely keepers...some may say, "ahh, that doesn't matter!"...having experienced both extremes on the spectrum, trust me, it matters.

"Did I ask too much, more than a lot?
You gave me nothing, now it's all I got.
We're one, but we're not the same.
Well, we hurt each other, then we do it again."